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01 September 2010 @ 10:34 pm
Feeling lonley even after 14 years..  
So my husband and i have been together for 14 years plus we lived together for a year and a half prior to marriage, and we have 2 children together. But lately i have felt so alone he is texting other woman he meets on line he goes and see's his ex that comes up from time to time which they all know he is married and has children, but never have they ever invited me or the kids out to meet them. I understand that she was a person in his life that meant something as was her family, but why do i feel so betrayed by this. He tells me all the time of it bothers me i should say something to him, but i feel that this is something he should know is not right. Am i being just a jealous wife or do i have ligitiment feelings here. I have talked to others about this but they are friends and i cant help but feel that they say what i want to hear. Anybody out there have any advice. I have stuck by this man through a lot of thin and thick, i have worked when he could not, i have been his leaning post whenever he needed me, i kept things together when he was unable. Now i know this is all in my vows which i take seriously, is he taking them as seriously as i do. Or is this a woman thing?
Current Mood: confusedconfused
ghostlynightsghostlynights on September 3rd, 2010 01:35 am (UTC)
Tell him how you feel. If these other women are going to be in his life, they should be in yours too. I have a friend (guy), we were friends for a few years. He got married. His wife got kind of jealous because she didn't know me. I asked her if we could get to know each other and we became friends. It is possible. Now the meeting girls online and texting them is not cool in my opinion! I have online friends I text, but they are the same sex. If you don't like it, SPEAK UP! Tell him how it makes you feel
cpufemcpufem on September 3rd, 2010 02:10 am (UTC)
angelscry09angelscry09 on September 5th, 2010 01:13 am (UTC)
cal_leegirl on September 9th, 2010 05:56 pm (UTC)
no your not being a jealous wife why is his still in contact with his ex she's an ex for a reason right? If the tables were turned how would he feel and why does he feel the need to text women that he he meets online why is he meeting women online and when you're feeling alone do something that makes you happy lunch with friends,shopping or taking a walk to clear your head be there done that with ex in my marriage
nuffluv on September 10th, 2010 03:10 pm (UTC)
Oh you are definitely being taken advantaged of. Yes, if the shoe was on the other foot he would not allow it. Men are extremely jealous as well.
When I've been hurt by my husband I seeked marriage couseling for myself. It helped having someone listen objectively to my thoughts and feelings. That way, you can relieve some of the stress he's putting on you. Then, perhaps, after a few sessions, invite him to come with you. Let him know you are seriously hurt by his actions. If he loves you, he should care.
tommycruisestommy50702 on November 6th, 2014 02:52 pm (UTC)
It's important to speak up.